Thursday, August 14, 2014

No Justice No Peace ...

It has taken me days to be able to put together the words to express my anguish about Mike Brown ... But here we go ...

The following is strictly the opinion of a young black woman, who is sitting back watching her race crumble... Me ... (My disclaimer) and I am angry, sad, and tired of black people only uniting when tragedy strikes us. 

FUCK THE POLICE !! 

I scream this doing my best Tupac impression. Actions like this prove that the value of our lives, our being the black community, is NOT held at any value. The orange haired pale faced Caucasian who walked into a packed movie theater and opened fire, he was not shot to death. A movie theater with babies (children) ... He was portrayed as a disheveled, mentally ill product of his environment. Yet Michael Brown, an 18 year old college enrolled, high school graduate, with NO CRIMINAL (let me repeat this key information) NO FUCKING CRIMINAL background was shot in the street like an RABBID ANIMAL!! 

Photos released by the media of Michael Brown kickin' it tried to paint a mural of him as a troubled teen. Saying he was possibly gang related because of the way he held his hands in a photo or two ... WRONG AGAIN !! Every person that has stepped up in behalf of the slain young man had nothing but good things to say, praising him for his good manners, cool demeanor, and bright future. I'm just completely disgusted with how they tried to infect the minds of America with bullshit before we really knew him, knew his background, knew his story. 

There is NO excuse for how Mike Brown was treated. No excuse for a mother not being able to identify that that was her child, for a mother to have to hear through the grapevine that the son that she nurtured into a young man with plans to better himself was brutally murdered in the streets by an officer put in his position to PROTECT. What further ads to the pain is that the officer was so careless to do it in the middle of a community. Now this woman has to live with seeing her son on every social media outlet, every news station, laying in the middle of the street with his blood creeping down the pavement (before the white sheet was covering him). 

I'm saddened, I'm deeply afraid, and I'm enraged. All of the above because I feel like although so much attention is being directed toward this case, not enough will be done to fix a broken community. They've started rioting, looting, and coming together as a unit but for what? I pray every night that the work these citizens are putting in in MO is not in vein. The police have decided to keep the officer in question's identity a secret ... Why? When he was on duty to PROTECT and to SERVE us, he used the authority and power against us. If your not in the streets to do as your supposed to do, which is to PROTECT AND SERVE the citizens of whatever city... Then what the fuck do you get up everyday and put that uniform on for. 

I'm waiting to hear more about this officer. Like does he have a history of violent arrests, was he a newbie maybe a little 'gun ho', or if he was 'scared' of the unarmed black man with his hands raised in the air begging for his fucking life. I'm sure he'll be releasing a statement similar to the latter of the three. That's a white man's (or woman's) favorite line in this country. 

As a black woman, I am not profiled by police, but I am profiled by citizens. Most people see my tattoos and chronic bitch face and assume the worst about me, then they get to know me or a scare the shit out if them with a simple BOO in there direction. Would that constitute some one to shoot me? Because of the way that I look? Because of what I post on my Instagram page? 

WAKE THE FUCK UP PEOPLE !! No one is goin to value our lives if we don't stop killing each other. I moved away from Pittsburgh PA in May ... And every week I'm seeing RIP SO AND SO or RWG SO AND SO ... It has to stop !! At some point it has to stop !! The police brutality, the black on black crime, the racism, the police department cover ups, it all has to stop. We are losing too many of our brothers !! Cousins!! Uncles!! Sons !! And fathers !! I'm screaming at you please hold your loved ones close to you !! Remind them that you love them and you need them around in this life time. There's too many forces working against us for our community to be so bitter and hateful towards each other !! It makes no sense !! 

I'm afraid for my nephews to grow up. I'm afraid for them to face society. I'm afraid to have to explain to my daughter how cruel our world is. One day she's going to ask how cases like Trayvon Martin even took place in a post civil rights movement era. How am I supposed to tell my daughter that the very people she should go to (the police) for help if I'm not around, are the very people who are killing our people in the streets of America like they're at war in Gaza. 

#HandsUp #DontShoot #JusticeForMikeBrown #JusticeForMikeBrown #JusticeForMikeBrown 

I am your voice young King and I will not go unheard ... 

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Tuesday, August 5, 2014

NoLivCANT

In light of the recent BULLSHIT that's been plastered all over my Instagram timeline (follow me @BlondeGirlNok) and national radio shows, I'm BACK !! If you haven't heard about the rumors of Jayonce having marital problems, it's likely you live under a rock. The most recent blow to the hip hop power couple is a poorly produced song by some bird named Liv who allegedly, didn't have sex with Hov, but connected on a "different level". Which to me is throwing salt in the wound because a man cheating on an emotional level is far worse than actually boning a bitch (excuse me for that but that was the best way to get my point across).

This chick is clearly an opportunist. She hops out the woodwork after whatever accusations were made and decided, what better time to launch me rap career. The pathetic part about it is you can tell she really put thought into the song. For one she ripped the classic 'I'm sorry Ms Jackson' track from OutKast. She's singing the hook and sounds like a mutt howling at the moon. Secondly the whole second verse she's not using word play but completely ripping whole lyrics from different Hov and Bey songs. She says, "Jigga man I don't care if you rap ... You gotta R-E-S-P-E-C-T that" "You got 99 problems, I ain't Trynna be one ... You gotta good girl, why she messin wit a bad guy" "Girls can't run the world fightin over men, all the single ladies better keep in mind, when the tables turn you goin be the wife". The production of the song is garbage, her flow is garbage, she's GARBAGE !!

Now that you have some basic background let me get ratchet and give you my rant about this busted ass bitch. How you coming for a billion dollar empire lookin like a bitch off the hoe stroll. Whoever dressed the bitch was dead wrong and who told her the comb over hair style was cute in her Walmart bra and panty set. Let's be clear, regardless of what you have to say, it will be far more respected if you put the time and effort into it to make it sound like something. She's judging Beyoncé about talking that 'Surfboarding' and 'Monica Lewinsky' shit but look at YOUUUU trying to capitalize off a demise of a relationship that isn't even in shambles. Baby girl you got what you wanted ... Your 15 minutes of fame ... Now go 'head on some damn where and pick up the pieces if your piece of shit rap career. I'm sure your not getting the feedback you wanted on this track. So now you need to apologize FOR REAL to the listeners of this bull shit. And please, no more singing. Find a ghost writer and bitch to sing your raggedy ass hook for you next jam. Your pathetic. Literally a peasant throwing stones at hip hop royalty. Your a nobody ass bitch who hung around Jay a few times and took his kindness for sexual advances. Your thirsty for attention. Now you got it, the whole world is laughing at your talentless ass, your a joke !! Your no Nicki, no Kim, or no E-V-E. I hope Remy comes for your head. Dusty trick.


And that concludes my rant ...

You can check out this disaster on YouTube and leave your feedback. This bitch MUST be stopped ... @YesLivCan ... Like Charlemagne said , BITCH NO YOU CANT !!  

Here's the link

http://youtu.be/CLbs1m9M5UM



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Monday, June 23, 2014

Man Eater ...

I've been thru my fair share of break ups, and consequentially, break downs. Something about the thought of things never going back to the honey moon stages eats me up. All the heartbreak I've endured has toughened me up tremendously. I find myself sitting back and plotting on n****s, like how can I mind f**k him. 

It's a viscous cycle. Nice girl meets a**hole ... He breaks her heart ... She turns into a b***h ... Meets nice guy ... Breaks his heart ... He turns into an a**hole ... Meets nice girl. I didn't realize how common my plotting was until I had a conversation with my home girl. She's a few years older than me but my mirror image. She (like myself) takes each encounter with men as a challenge.

I'm drawn more to the alpha male type. My Instagram bio reads 'Real light blonde b***h who likes fat boss n****s with beards'. I'm no skinny b***h so I prefer big burly beared grizzly bear men, but it goes further than that. I'm attracted to mentally strong men and I challenge myself to bring him to his knees and eat out of my palms. It's how the game has made me. Occasionally I find myself smitten by a guy like this but I never lose focus. I never lose my goal. 

When I meet guys I make it clear what I want, even if it's just his sex. I guess you can call me a woman of my generation ... A real BROAD. I don't sugar coat things and that seems to draw them in even closer. Once I've got my paws on them I reflect and pay attention, do the things he like, talk s**t, and make him fall in love. Then I don't have to call twice if I want it again. For some reason, the tough guys like when a woman takes control, show them who's boss. Remember, ladies, the power of the P is greater than any other force in the universe. 

At this point of my life, it's going to take King Leonidas himself to break me out of my cycle. 

So are you using your P to it's advantage... Or being used for his advantage? 

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Wednesday, April 23, 2014

A slice of humble pie ...

I don't know if every city is like Pittsburgh, PA ... But here, you find the same group of people supporting each other. And anyone outside that group, it be like fuck them. I mean honestly I do my best to show love but I'm not obligated to attend or support any one person or group. 

I base the way I do things completely off the vibes (for lack of a better word) I get from people when I meet them. Although I seem to be shallow or even sudity I promise you I'm not. I can be. But on a day to day I'm so regular. And if for some reason I treat someone bad it's because my first impression of them made me feel like they don't deserved my support. If I met you and you act shitty, guess what bitch!!  I'm not attending your event, I'm not reposting your flyer, I'm not mentioning it on the radio, NOTHING. I'm super petty. And I stand behind everything I do and say. Right or wrong. 

People kill me, I mean really fucking slay me to pieces. I sit back and watch all the dick eating that goes on on Instagram. If I think a bitch is pretty, I'm goin put heart eyes under her pic and show love. I'm goin give credit when it's due. If I don't think her (or his I don't discriminate) pic is cute, guess the fuck what ?! I'm not liking it lol I mean Seriously. And when I see her in the streets Im still goin speak. Simple as that. We don't have to be besties. No I don't have her number. No we ain't doin lunch. But I keep communication lines open n bull shit free in case I need her connections. 

I mean I guess what I'm saying is broaden your circle for professional purposes. I may not have the answers about this or that but because I try to make myself approachable I may know someone who can give you the answers you seek.

On NoChill radio last week we talked to two groups of party promoters. At the end of the show we all sat back and talked business. We came to the conclusion that it makes more sense to all come together to do things rather than dividing the city and fucking up any more money. Everything is about who you know. I never sat down with any of those people before. But I did then and I learned something from each of them. Sometimes it's ok to shut the fuck up and let information soak in. 

I get tired of hearing people complain about how people in Pittsburgh only show support to some people n not others. If you feel like what the fuck your doing isn't getting the attention it deserves then you have to put more effort into getting your shit sold to the masses. Nobody but you is going to give a fuck about your craft like you do. Don't complain about what someone else is doing !! Prefect your craft and marketing. Brand yourself !!

There is always going to be a copy cat out there so if that's the problem you have to think at least 5 steps ahead of the game!! If I see two people on Instagram selling the same product at the same price, I'm going to buy it from the person who when I seen out was cordial, smiled and was welcoming. Same for an event taking place. If when I had the chance to meet you in person and the vibes that came from you weren't humbled I'm not wasting my time or my fucking money. 

If your in the business your in to make money, be your brand 100% of the time. Some days I'm in a shitty mood but if someone stops me to talk about my craft, guess what? That shit is put on pause and I turn that shit to sugar and will hold conversations with complete strangers. If you expect to move higher on the ladder to success humble yourself and take what you do serious ... or nobody else will ... 

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Sunday, April 20, 2014

Lost && Found ...



As I embark on a new journey... A new chapter ... No a new book ... I look back at all the times I was broken and was left to pick up the pieces of my life. I spent the last 3 years on an emotional roller coaster that had no emergency brakes, shit no brakes at all, but I'm choosing now to bring this bitch to a screeching halt ... I've gone around so many times, that I've begun to be accustomed to the fucking bullshit. Living fast n daily a piece of me is left behind. 

Everytime I thought I reached a moment of clarity before, I was wrong. I had just switch the kind of jaded glasses. No situation was ever better than the other, it was just deteriorated me differently. They were trials that I had to experience so I can teach my daughter to maneuver differently. I'm grateful to have a corner of peace. I don't have the whole thing. I'm working on it though. 

In each bad decision I make (not made because I'm still actively making bad choices), I lose a piece of my sanity, I give away more of my power that I am so proud of. I have literally let someone else change me .... Mold ME !! ... Imagine that ... Someone having control of me ... I've been subconsciously manipulated into thinking what I've gone through is ok ... But in THIS moment ... THIS time I see things again differently ... Maybe not necessarily right ... But definitely different. 

So now here I am ... Walking around packing ... Reminiscing ... Packing ... Laughing ... Packing ... Crying ... Packing ... An I stop to think ... that this move is about to be phenomenal for me ... I almost let the opportunity pass me by ... Why? Because I was JADED ... I was made to believe that what was here ... In this small city ... Could surpass the possibilities that wait for me anywhere else ... An I do mean ANYWHERE BUT HERE. 

So I'm moving now ... And en route I'm finding small particles on the floor in the house my mother and father raised me in ... And they look familiar ... I touch them and they feel like I've touched them before ... I'm staring at them in awe of what I see ... And I realize that they are pieces of the old me ... Broken pieces that I left behind each time I let a nigga break me ... And I'm piecing them together and seeing the girl my mother and father raised ... Pieces of me that I assumed were lost !! 

This move I'm making is going to break the vicious cycle I have been in the last few years ... This is a move in the right direction. I'm busting out of my comfort zone in order to continue to build for my family in the future ... They say never regret anything ... But I regret everything but the birth of my daughter and my blog ... 

This is the end ... And the beginning ... 


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Thursday, March 27, 2014

Moment of clarity ...

There's more to life than what's tangible ... You know ... Like what you can physically touch ... Being able to satisfy all 5 senses and then some is where I desire to be in the long haul. Let me elaborate. I need to wake up everyday and see my daughters smile, hear her laugh, touch the man of my dreams, breathe in the sea breeze, taste the sweet flavors of tropic fruit, say what I want, be who I want, live comfortably, to my standards, and be care free !! I intend to do whatever it is possible to get there. I just want to be able to genuinely smile, laugh without holding back, and be loved for me and not what I can do. 

Knowing what's good for the moment and what's good for your soul is distinguished only when you've reached the very end of your rope and you have no where else to go but up. Sometimes you have to be at your lowest point before you can begin to see things for what they truly are. When the chips fall, pay attention to who's there helping you pick them up, both literal and metaphorical. I find most of the time when shit really matters only a few people sit in my corner just waiting for when I call. And I love each and every one of them for it. Cherish those people, make sure they know they're appreciated because fuck tomorrow, today isn't promised. 

Trial, error, and death are the only thing guaranteed in life. Until you get to a satisfying plateau, there will be a series of ups and downs. You just have to remember when you hit a low to look forward to the greater good that is about to emerge from the shitty situation that you've found yourself in. Dust yourself the fuck off and use what you still have to start over.

You'll find yourself outgrowing people. And that's fine. Do not let them make you feel bad for shedding old skin to grow. Life is about growth.You can't continue to do the same things but expect different results. 

People will place themselves in your life strategically to reap YOUR benefits. Don't let those people bleed your dry. Don't let people distract you from or discourage you from finishing the race to finish line. 

Anyone in your world who shows any doubt, any envy, any jealousy, any sense of spite ... Cut them off immediately. Those will be the people who will despise you for your growth but have their handout for the fruits of your labors. Surround yourself with positive people with goals that surpass yours. Trust me, that may sound crazy, but you'll never make it where you want to be if you don't meet people that have already been there. Drink from the knowledge that drips off of them!! Collect the jewels that they drop and learn from every mistake that they've made. 




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Thursday, February 27, 2014

Just a simple rant ...

I've been battling some inner demons lately about decisions I've made or didn't make these past few years. I know y'all was like damn bitch what's the hold up ?! Nonetheless ... I'm BACK ... 

What do you do when you've come to the end of your rope ... When your exhausted all your solutions? That's where I've been for the past two months. Trying to figure out my place. 

Stepping out of your comfort zone requires you to make changes. Some of those changes may be letting go of things your really not prepared to but in order to move forward you have to let go of the baggage. You can only hope later that the decision that was made was the right one. 

You have to cut off an infected limb to save the rest of the body, but the say don't cut off your nose to spite your face. I know I'm not the only one out there living in limbo. I just don't live in the shadows. Pittsburgh is a small town and I'm working on becoming a big fish so in turn people pay attention to what I do and how I do it more than they do the average joe. So when I make decisions, before I say things, before I post things, I have to already have in my head what the possible outcomes will be. What backlash may emerge, or if a bitch might wanna beef. 

I'm not the type to say, oh no, I'm not worried about what people think of me, because I do. What someone says about me can tarnish my reputation and fuck up potential business. And I'm all about my business. I'm about my money, who's not? That's no secret. Let's not be dumb, my name makes me money. Why the fuck would I condone anyone throwing dirt on it. 

I'm on a permanent grind for more reasons than one. I have my greatest accomplishment (my daughter) watching my every move, I have a whole list of people preying for my plummet, I have my parents behind me who had one vision for me and because I have strayed away from THAT I have to make THIS work. Nothing's ever guaranteed, but I can promise that this is only the beginning. This is only the platform for greater accomplishments. 

I don't know where it will take me, people ask me all the time what my ultimate goal is. I have yet to really determine that BUT I know the top is looking real good, and I'm going to do whatever, use whatever resources, outlets, or whatever the fuck to get there. I can stress to you guys how much I appreciate the support !! I am looking to expand because Pittsburgh is only the beginning. And when I break from here ain't nobody fuckin with me. 

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Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Insecurities !!

From what I've encountered first hand, tapping into a mans deepest feelings is like sneaking into Fort Knox. They lock their true feelings away and wrap them in barbed wire. For the record fellas... It's annoying as shit. 

Guys seem to know how to divert attention away from them when the heats really on. They love to flip things back into whomever. Their defenses immediately emerge. Trying to get them to answer simple questions is like persuading a 1 year old to effectively use the potty. 

I know a lot of y'all who need a little 'liquid courage' to say what you've always wanted to. A drunken mind speaks the truth, whether they mean to or not. It can be a gift and a curse because, yes, they've gotten something heavy off their chest, but the delivery is all wrong. 

Men shield their insecurities because society has painted a standard for them to follow. Please keep in mind a lot of these standards were put in place ages ago and don't apply today. So when against a woman of this millennium, old fashioned ways only get mocked. Women are now being brought up to be less defendant on men so for a guy to be completely macho cause a clash if personalities. 

If a man (or woman) can not embrace their insecurities and work towards some sort of change, a healthy relationship is next to impossible to obtain. I can guarantee that is in the top 5 reasons people separate, because they can not be completely open and honest. 

Being open and honest does not mean point fingers at your partner, but be able to identify and accept your flaws, Working towards that change ... together ... That goes for any kind of relationship ... Friends, lovers, etc. 

Insecurities can and will manifest into something far worse than what they began. I've had some serious issues with insecurities and they have destroyed great friendship.  I've let my insecurities alter my psyche and done some crazy things to people, hurt a lot of feelings, lashes out at right and wrong people about things not in my control. But I accept responsibility, I don't apologize because I always mean what I say, the delivery may have been harsh, but those were just MY insecurities in living color. 


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Friday, February 14, 2014

The Cupid Struggle


Valentines day brings the best and worst out of people. Either people are really happy about the holiday, or really fucking miserable! Where's the medium? Well I'm here tap dancing in limbo. 

The really happy end of the spectrum is filled to the brim with people flooding their social network feeds with love quotes, gift pics, and 'FlippaGrams'. I love to see people who genuinely are in love, hell even in like with a muh fucker. People who keep their relationships fresh (whether for the public eye or not I'm not here to judge). 

At the opposite end of things are the Bitter Betty's and Bob's who are sitting back despising the thought of love. I ain't mad at y'all either. Clearly something has spoiled your Valentine's Day chocolates and your here to let it be known. (Posting pictures of Cupid getting shot and shit. Damn homie !!) 

Last but not least are my favorite kind of folk, the people who don't care about the holiday enough to post a million tweegrams about how much they don't care about the holiday. The ones who picked up overtime at work to scream, 'My Valentine is Ben Franklin' ... Not workin at McDonalds booboo !! But again, I'm not here to judge you. Be great. 

Finding love is an amazing thing. Loving whole heartedly, living happily, being united with someone who's best asset is you is an amazing thing. When you find it, hold on to it, fight for it. 

I believe in a higher being who gives and takes people and opportunity. Sometimes things (or people) are presented to you as a challenge. It's up to you to make the right decisions. This Valentines day I challenge you to do something different. Make a long lasting memory with someone you care about. 

Happy Valentine's Day from me && Mine !! 


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Monday, February 10, 2014

Urban Myth ...


Before I begin let me provide my disclaimer ... My opinion on this subject is biased because of my past ... BUT I will try my hardest to speak on behalf of all sides. If you know me, you know my story (or the gist of it) so I'll keep it out of this. 

Ladies ... Contrary to popular belief ... A BABY WILL NOT KEEP A NIGGA AROUND !! A baby will not keep your nigga from cheating, from leaving, from creeping, from NOTHING !! And in the same breath, FELLAS, just because you have a baby with a shorty does NOT mean she's yours forever. 

For whatever reason, some women use babies as a manipulative ploy to keep a guy around. If your doing it to nab a nigga from the next bitch, chances are you just made yourself a permanent side piece. You'll do whatever it takes to divert him from his woman and that means you'll accept your place as number two. Check this out though, if you make that bed, LAY IN IT, don't try to climb your way to the top. 

I'll say sometimes it works though. I know guys who keep their baby moms around on the strength of their kids. To me, it looks like it's out of sympathy. He'll do whatever possible to keep all parties happy, main bitch, side bitch, baby mom, new girlfriend ... Etc.

On the other end of the spectrum, their are guys who think because they got a bitch pregnant, that she won't leave him. Like she's a permanent part of the team. Some girls fall in line with every other girl, others stand apart n dare to be different. 

The most important part in all the drama are the kids involved. You can't let them see the craziness. You can't mom or dad bash to them. You have to have THAT much respect. 

Here is a small note to new girl friends coming into a scenario from me to you ... If you get yourself involved with a guy with kids, please let the love you gain for those children be genuine. Do not force it to make your man happy. It only makes things worse, and it's transparent as ever. If you whole heartedly fuck with his kids, good, life's about to be so easy. If not, prepare yourself because shit is gonna be tough. If you have a hard time accepting things then remove yourself because a woman's or man's love for their children may be the only thing they have in common and it'll be used against you ... 

Either way it goes, someone ends up being an on going headache. Whether it's the bitter baby's mom, jealous baby's dad, or the selfish side bitch. So tell me this ... Which one are you? 

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Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Black girl problems ...

(Photo credit my girl Necca - @westsidestory412 on Instagram) 
Ask me if I'm mixed ... ONE. MORE. TIME... I swear, when I come outside, at least ONE person asks if I'm mixed. The answer is no. Nothing against people who are, I'm just not. One thing about black folk is we come in an array of colors ... From midnight black to high yellow, and that can be in one family. 

I often joke that I'm dark skin on the inside. I'm not the stereotypical, hair flippin, high horse riding light skin chick (unless I have to be). 

Now don't get me wrong... When I'm out with my girls or my man and I'm super dolled up and my face beat to the GAWDS, then yes, I find my seat high up in the nose bleeds. The look on my face is a plastered smirk, but when I'm chillin' though, on a day to day, or behind the bar, I'm super approachable.

In a lot of women of color, there's an underlying hate for one another. I know light skin women who wouldn't  give a brown skin chick water in a sand storm (and vice versa).

If you walk into a room full of women your judged before you even make it to your seat. That shit kills me. I know this because I catch myself doing it sometimes. I never speak on no shit until I've done my investigating though. And that's only if it's worth it. If I know I'm goin to see this person again. If not, it's in the wind. 

I'm all for empowerment. I can't stress this enough. 

We as women have so much to offer but because we are preprogrammed to be a certain way things don't get accomplished as they should. I love to see a woman who's on her shit without bragging. A woman who can humble herself without being asked. Good is never over looked. 

Try to spend less time pointing out the bad in the person next to you and more time fixing the wrong within. Self confidence shines brighter than any jewelry you can cover yourself in. Self confidence speaks for you. Once you rid yourself of whatever hate you have inside, it shows on the outside. 

I'm still working on myself. I don't want to sound self righteous and like my shits together, 'cause it ain't. But I promised myself that I would make the changes necessary so my daughter has something worth looking up to. Something she sees everyday so she doesn't have to seek it anywhere but home. 

It's our responsibility ladies. We are the ones raising the next generation of black women ...




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Monday, February 3, 2014

Cheaters Annonymous

In a world full of stereotypes, a cheating woman is becoming less cliche. We know what we want (and more importantly), we know what we DONT want and we are capable of having our cake and it eat it too. 

For some of us, we have to be taken to a breaking point to step outside of our relationships. For others, it's a routine, but it's a routine that is seldom picked up by our significant others. Either way it's not likely they are caught, unless they want to be. 

Im not here as an advocate for cheating. I'm here to provide awareness because a lot of guys think that women can't play the game they play. That's old news. You have ladies out there (like myself) who were schooled by some of the illest niggas out here. Any bullshit I choose to tolerate is just that, bull shit I CHOOSE to tolerate. 

Guys are so persistent sometimes. It's really cute. But a woman knows when she sees a man whether it not she's 100% capable of investing not only her mind, but her body. Most women are getting better at keeping it real with guys from jump, then they're labeled a 'HOE' ... But why? Again ... It's 2014. We do the choosing. 

I went a long time expecting to be cheated on, so that was always my excuse. That was how I made it ok in my head to do it. Cheat before you get cheated on. Until I met someone who made me feel secure enough to not need a hunnit niggas in my phone for 'back up' or 'just in case'. 

I did a lot of dirt and I've NEVER gotten caught red handed... Until I wanted too. And by that time it was too late. I had his name tattooed on my ring finger and didn't give a fuck. Who would dare check me? 

I mean honestly, if you have a woman who sweats the small shit, appreciate her. When she stops is when you better worry, because one of two things is goin on. Either she's building a case against you like a star prosecutor or she's got another nigga who's made his shoulder a place to cry on (figuratively or literally). 

A woman can be at dinner with her man and be fucking the waiter and old dumb ass across would never know, why? Because we wouldn't dare bat a single eyelash. If a guy was in the same situation, he'd get'ta stuttering and stammering or explaining before the appetizers hit the table. It's in men to be dogs but it's not in them to be house trained. They're messy. 

Women are sensual seductive creatures. We can have every person in the room hypnotized by us if we tap into it. We can make each and every one of our niggas feel special without them think twice about being just another player on the bench. 

It's all a mind thing for men. We let you think your in control but we have THE POWER OF THE V!! Fuck drug money, 'Good pussy. It'll buy you what you want!' 


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Thursday, January 30, 2014

She-Spy ... Private EYE

It's probably acceptable to say that at one time or another you've caught yourself lurking on an Instagram page or two ... (Or three or more whatever) ... BUT when women feel that itch ... That intuition ... That something isn't right in our relationship, then it literally becomes our part time job to get to the bottom of whatever doubts we have. 

You can call it women's intuition, I call it a sixth sense. Not only can we see, smell, touch, hear, and taste ... We can also FEEL !! Not tangibly feel (like skin to skin or skin to an object) but feel in the pit of our stomachs that something foul is going on. 

The internet and social media have made it so much easier to snoop on our men, his friends, their girlfriends, and her family. It's like a domino effect. Especially with Instagram. 

Correct me if I'm wrong... 

You see someone comment heart eyes under your significant others picture... You click their name now your scrollin THAT page ... You find a group pic of them and their friends ... So you click one of THOSE names ... Next thing you know it's an hour and a half later and you now are liking their high school sweethearts best friends great grandmas 85th birthday picture. 

See back in her day (the 85 year old previously mentioned), if her husband was steppin out on her then it was very hush hush. He may have had a whole other family on the other side of town but it was a town secret. Not now honey. 

Today, in 2014... Us women we want ALLLLL the dirt. We wanna know who the bitch is, where she live, who her baby daddy is, if he in jail or not, where she went to school at, who her prom date was, and so on, and so forth. And baby it's not hard to find out. 

Women of this generation can find a tic on a wildebeest once she gets her girl on board. And this isn't limited to one ethnicity. This is ANY group of women. We have outgrown our meek demeanors of our ancestors and gained the boisterous headstrong attitude of this new millennium. 

And pleaaaase honey don't piss us off because we can find what we need to know sooner than later. Nobody texts, google searches, and map quests faster than a scorned woman. Trust me, if I don't know something or someone, I know somebody who does !!  

We don't need the cape and magnifying glass, cause once I give my girls the go ahead I'm goin get screen shots, addresses, texts and whatever else I need before I even know I need it. Believe me. Been there. Done that. Got three t shirts. Burned them in a camp fire !! 

Although I can turn into Inspector Gadget in a blink of an eye, I have learned in my experiences that sometimes when you go digging, you don't always find gold. Information that you find may be more hurtful than you imagined and then your world is turn upside down. Then your there trying to pick up the pieces to a puzzle you thought you knew like the back of your hand. Something's are better left in the dark, but if you are losing sleep (and weight) over something or someone dig until you feel like you've got the answers you need then let it go. 


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Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Make up BUST !!

Now I told my homegirl Bettina I wasn't een bout to blog on this shit because I didn't give a fuck. But because of the high ass demand imma go head n talk my shit any way. If your not from Pittsburgh you won't know who I'm talking about, but you'll know exactly the kind of fuckery. 

I don't know who spotted the bull shit first, but SOMEONE noticed that a local make up artist had done very similar work, on some alarmingly similar looking people as an out of town make up artist. Picstitches were made and plastered up and down the feed on Instagram (insert shameless plug here -> follow me @blondegirlnok). I can't lie, I didn't follow along any more with the goings on, but I seen enough to draw my own conclusions. 

In the past, I've reported phony FaceBook pages where my photos were being used to 'catfish' unsuspecting men. (A catfish is someone who pretends to be someone they're not using Facebook or other social media to create false identities, particularly to pursue deceptive online romances. -shout out urban dictionary for that fine definition.) I can't describe in words how furious it made me. That shit is weird. And it made me think that whoever was behind them had something to be ashamed of. They clearly were masking some sort of ugly. 

Now back to the make up bust ... Even though the only GAWDS that beat this face are one of two people (previously mentioned @vivaglam88 and @makeupbybo) ... I can see why people are upset. It's the fact that this person was deceitful and claimed work that wasn't hers. Even cropped out the girls IG tag and added her own watermark logo. That was FUCKED up. And wrong. And shiesty.  

Shorty was wrong as two left shoes ... But she had a nice little run. Had she not got caught she may have made the most money this upcoming prom and wedding season. 

Bottom line is she has to be hiding an insecurity... Or trying to shit on another make up artist the gain popularity. Those were great lengths she went but you can't hide things in plain sight and expect them not to be pointed out. 

But for me to go on and on would imply that I gave a fuck. Shorty fucked up, and bad !! But I'm neither judge nor jury. She ain't do nothin but fuck up her rep in Pittsburgh. And I'm sure she made a profit before getting caught up. I don't know anyone who went to her ... But I'd love to hear from you ... Contact info is below ... And I'll be sure to display your testimony to the masses !! 



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Monday, January 27, 2014

No tea. No shade.



No tea, no shade ... BUT !! 
I can't stand for a bitch to sit and talk about a girl being taken care of. Let me be the first to say if my husband comes home today or tomorrow and tells me, 'Go 'head baby. Quit your job. Work on your blog 24/7' I'm tellin everybody to kiss my yellow ass. 

Don't hate on a girl for being well kept. I'm sure she's working hard at keeping that nigga satisfied enough at home without workin. Damn that. 

And you kept bitches listen up !! If your is smart your pinching off whatever money he throw your way and setting up a rainy day fund. Sunshine don't last forever. Take some of that money and start a company or invest it so that when you need it most it's there. 

There's nothing wrong with being a trophy wife. I stand behind you bitches 100% with whatever you do. Just choose your role and play it well. 

If your a working woman, be the best at what you do to take care of your family but don't shit on the next bitch for having it easy. Work towards a goal so you can be living just as comfortably. 

If you make your money off hustlin niggas, hope that your using that money to keep up your body cause when gravity take over, them titties ain't goin be sittin right like they used to.

Use what you got to get what you want. Whether it's Brains or your body, use it til it gets you where you see yourself. 

I'm all about empowerment. I see chicks doin their thing and I salute them. If their product is something I use or can see myself purchasing, I'll definitely stand behind it. If I don't, I may speak on it to my close friends or my husband but I'm not goin bash them publicly. It may not be me, but someone is supporting them. And that's all that matters. 

Let me be great and I promise you'll get yours. Karma is a bad bitter bitch. So if you try to shit on the next person, please be ready for it to come back ten fold. 


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Saturday, January 25, 2014

Side Nigga Syndrome

I just want y'all to know how hard this shit was to write without incriminating myself for my past activities !! 

Although it seems like women playin second is almost as normal as breathing now a days, men playing #2 is just as common. As I said before women can't love two men equally, but who says she loves either of you? 

Before I got married, I was a dog. I mean literally. I dealt with plenty niggas n made them all feel like they were number 1. I just wanted to have fun. But it's a fun and games until they find out they're not the only ones. We as women are labeled as emotional creatures but men are just as emotional, they just display them differently. And shit always got real.   

When your upfront with guys and let them know they aren't the only ones they try really hard to be everything your main dude isn't. They want to give you more attention than that guy, they want to spend more than that guy, they want to fake like they're listening to your problems more than that guy... All. To. Get. The. Pussy. 

Now if they get the drawls, 1 of a few things will happen. 

1) They change up completely, treating you like shit for being disloyal to your man 
2) They try to play it cool but be gone and want to be #1. 
3) They become clingy and try to sabotage your home life. 

Umma keep it real though. Women are a lot better at cheating than men. While all of this is going on in her life, her main nigga may NEVER EVER KNOW. Women know how to play all sides of the fence. We're programmed to be phony. It's just in us. (Whether or not a woman is able to suppress it and be real on a day to day is different topic for another blog honey.)

I can testify that guys pay the most attention to chicks when they are loyal to another guy. I swear I never got so many niggas lined up until I was holding a nigga down n jail or when I decided to settle down and get married. It's like your commitment to one guy is a magnet for every other guy. 

I laugh because in my head I'm thinkin, so you want me to dog this nigga, get with you, just so you can dog me. Because y'all know niggas like to throw shit back in your face. I'm not about to hand a nigga the shovel. 

At no time can I afford to throw away my comfort zone for a side nigga. Especially when I don't know where I'll end up or how many other chicks he's spinnin... Side niggas don't know how to act. Niggas get catty just like chicks do. Once you hurt a niggas pride, he's out for blood. Watch how quick you go from being 'beautiful just the way you are' to every average bitch in the book when they spill their feelings to you and you down play them. 

The bottom line is PLAY YOUR PART !! If you sign up as fucking janitor, don't try to end up a fucking principal. 



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Thursday, January 23, 2014

The not so secret society of side bitches



Back in my side bitch days, I played my fuckin role. There wasn't no bitchin n cryin about spending time. Just break that bread off when I need it an I'll keep my mouth shut. Those were the rules. 

I knew I was wrong but I was young(ER), childless, and carefree. I knew he wasn't leavin his bitch. He told me he loved me and the saddest part about it was I know he did. 

See men n women love differently. And when you involve a third party, things get messy. Men can love two (or more) women at a time. But here these two women are, loving the same man. 

Women always know when their man is cheating because men are creatures of habit. An once those habits are broken, there's a reason why. They're trying to do things out of the norm to intrigue this other woman. 

Now whether or not the woman at home is goin to speak on it is another issue. 

I've been on both sides of the fence. And I'm a firm believer in Karma so I know that when she came back she would not kick me in the ass, but in the face. And she did. 

It was the worst feeling in the world to know that the man that I loved and lived for loved someone else. In my mind you can't possibly love me and ANYBODY else. 

If you goin have a side bitch, she got to know she's secondary. Once you make that bitch feel special she becomes a threat to your woman at home and then ... Well then is when the trouble begins. Arguments, fights, crazy texts, and prank phone calls. 

At this point the side bitch now feels she pulls rank and deserves the treatment the man is giving to his woman at home, and she'll do whatever it takes to become #1. 

Lawwwwwd don't get me ta preachin up n here !! 

The side bitch is the side bitch for a reason !! 

Let's not forget honey ... A woman loses a man the same Motha fuckin way she got em !! 




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Monday, January 20, 2014

Mind yo MUTHA FUCKIN BUSINESS ... Friends in your relationship

For those who don't know, I'm married. Like every relationship (intimate or not) we have good and bad days. One thing that keeps us focused on us, we don't involve friends, family, or social networks when we're at each others throats. 

Although we're very public, we keep our in house goings on, in the damn house where they belong. 

How often do you see couples on Instagram or Facebook fighting then turn around and are right back where they started, together. They went from 'That niggas a lyin ass dog' to 'I love my baby daddy, I'll never let him go'. As I've said before, I'm very into public image, an that there just doesn't look good from the outside looking in. 

And to friends stand point, MIND YO MUTHA FUCKIN BUSINESS. 

Regardless of what's brought to you, stay in your place n keep the conversation inside the four walls it was brought to you in. It's not your place to tell Jane, Linda, an Tracy a mutha fuckin thing. 

Early last week, me and my hubby were home and he got a call from his homeboy. He said his mans was at a bar on the West side of Pittsburgh and so was I, in some niggas face. My husband laughed n responded, 'Boyyyy my wife in the kitchen... Tell ya mans to take a better look' (oh by the way shout out to whatever fuck boy that was... I'm sure he's never met me but imma let you be great). Even if I wasn't in the house my husband had the security to know better than that. 

At no point is that acceptable for a man to be making calls like that because they are always trigger ready when the tables are turned and they get caught by their girls home girl. So let's just stay in our own lanes. 

And that's always a tough decision. Do you call your friend if you see her man with another bitch? Every scenario is different. It depends on your relationship with that friend. It may come back and bite you on your ass. It may ruin your friendship. Just be careful. 

Pittsburgh is so small an so full of crabs tryin snatch you down, if your not confident in yourself and your mate, anything can tear you two apart. Including friends ...


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Saturday, January 18, 2014

Bitches with no edges act like edges don't be everything ...


Don't get me wrong, I'm in no way upset at you ladies for having fucked up hairlines. On some real shit, I pray daily that I don't inherit my dads receding hairline. A baldy doesn't work as well for females. 

What I am upset with is the excuses I've heard. An the attitude girls have when someone starts talkin about hairlines. You can tell a girl got fucked up edges under her weave if you bring up this blog and they get'ta rollin' their eyes, instantly getting an attitude. 

Look, as black women we forever torture our hair. That's a given. But we have to take responsibility for it. I don't want to hear you blaming your mother for relaxing your hair too soon or Ms. Maggie for selling you the glue you shellacked on for those perfect Chinese inspired bangs. 

Going into every hairstyle you gotta think about what your goin do next with your hair. Whether or not you'll have enough hair to grip to braid for that sew in. Or what pattern you goin make those braids to hide bald spots. So choose wisely !! 

More recently I've noticed people are wanting to find less damaging ways to do their hair. They're paying attention to the amount of strain being out on their hair and taking steps to prevent and repair damage already done. Kudos to you !!  

My main point is, you have the opportunity to prevent ridicule. Whether or not you do so is completely on you. 

AND FELLASSSSS !! Your not off the hook. Your in the barber chair every week and wonder why oh why your hairline is FUCKED up. I'm seeing a lot more guys rockin' baldys. I just assumed someone slipped with the clippers n they had to take it all the way down. If goin bald before 30 was your choice, shout out to you I f not, well think twice before you point fingers at any shorty with a disappearing hairline. 


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Thursday, January 16, 2014

Rats on rats on rats ... Rumors in the community



I, BlondeGirl Nok, can only give the public information that has been brought to my attention. If you can't stand the heat, GET OUT THE KITCHEN !! 


Pittsburghers TAKE HEED !! 

While y'all worried about the 'China Man' frying up dogs, cats, rats, and raccoons ... You neeeeeeeed to be paying more attention to what (other than chicken and fish) your favorite local bars are frying.

I mean, I can only speak for places I've been employed. I never seen anything outlandish. Maybe a roach here n there. But in all honesty a customer brought them in, in her purse (I can't make this shit up).

This shit here though is unimaginable !!

My husband brought to my attention a video a close friend of his posted on his Facebook page eariler in the week. It was a group of fellas standing around a deep fryer removing a mouse or rat or whatever the fuck. It damn sure wasn't a bird. An YES IT WAS IN PITTSBURGH !!

Now that you have this information under your hats, bet you screamin' WHERE BLONDE GIRL WHEREEEE ?! Ha !! Cause that was my reaction. 


Supposedly It happened at a bar called The Sandy Creek or some shit. I'm guessing only Penn Hills an East Hills natives really know anything about how good their chicken REALLY is. 


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