She-Spy ... Private EYE

It's probably acceptable to say that at one time or another you've caught yourself lurking on an Instagram page or two ... (Or three or more whatever) ... BUT when women feel that itch ... That intuition ... That something isn't right in our relationship, then it literally becomes our part time job to get to the bottom of whatever doubts we have. 

You can call it women's intuition, I call it a sixth sense. Not only can we see, smell, touch, hear, and taste ... We can also FEEL !! Not tangibly feel (like skin to skin or skin to an object) but feel in the pit of our stomachs that something foul is going on. 

The internet and social media have made it so much easier to snoop on our men, his friends, their girlfriends, and her family. It's like a domino effect. Especially with Instagram. 

Correct me if I'm wrong... 

You see someone comment heart eyes under your significant others picture... You click their name now your scrollin THAT page ... You find a group pic of them and their friends ... So you click one of THOSE names ... Next thing you know it's an hour and a half later and you now are liking their high school sweethearts best friends great grandmas 85th birthday picture. 

See back in her day (the 85 year old previously mentioned), if her husband was steppin out on her then it was very hush hush. He may have had a whole other family on the other side of town but it was a town secret. Not now honey. 

Today, in 2014... Us women we want ALLLLL the dirt. We wanna know who the bitch is, where she live, who her baby daddy is, if he in jail or not, where she went to school at, who her prom date was, and so on, and so forth. And baby it's not hard to find out. 

Women of this generation can find a tic on a wildebeest once she gets her girl on board. And this isn't limited to one ethnicity. This is ANY group of women. We have outgrown our meek demeanors of our ancestors and gained the boisterous headstrong attitude of this new millennium. 

And pleaaaase honey don't piss us off because we can find what we need to know sooner than later. Nobody texts, google searches, and map quests faster than a scorned woman. Trust me, if I don't know something or someone, I know somebody who does !!  

We don't need the cape and magnifying glass, cause once I give my girls the go ahead I'm goin get screen shots, addresses, texts and whatever else I need before I even know I need it. Believe me. Been there. Done that. Got three t shirts. Burned them in a camp fire !! 

Although I can turn into Inspector Gadget in a blink of an eye, I have learned in my experiences that sometimes when you go digging, you don't always find gold. Information that you find may be more hurtful than you imagined and then your world is turn upside down. Then your there trying to pick up the pieces to a puzzle you thought you knew like the back of your hand. Something's are better left in the dark, but if you are losing sleep (and weight) over something or someone dig until you feel like you've got the answers you need then let it go. 

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Make up BUST !!

Now I told my homegirl Bettina I wasn't een bout to blog on this shit because I didn't give a fuck. But because of the high ass demand imma go head n talk my shit any way. If your not from Pittsburgh you won't know who I'm talking about, but you'll know exactly the kind of fuckery. 

I don't know who spotted the bull shit first, but SOMEONE noticed that a local make up artist had done very similar work, on some alarmingly similar looking people as an out of town make up artist. Picstitches were made and plastered up and down the feed on Instagram (insert shameless plug here -> follow me @blondegirlnok). I can't lie, I didn't follow along any more with the goings on, but I seen enough to draw my own conclusions. 

In the past, I've reported phony FaceBook pages where my photos were being used to 'catfish' unsuspecting men. (A catfish is someone who pretends to be someone they're not using Facebook or other social media to create false identities, particularly to pursue deceptive online romances. -shout out urban dictionary for that fine definition.) I can't describe in words how furious it made me. That shit is weird. And it made me think that whoever was behind them had something to be ashamed of. They clearly were masking some sort of ugly. 

Now back to the make up bust ... Even though the only GAWDS that beat this face are one of two people (previously mentioned @vivaglam88 and @makeupbybo) ... I can see why people are upset. It's the fact that this person was deceitful and claimed work that wasn't hers. Even cropped out the girls IG tag and added her own watermark logo. That was FUCKED up. And wrong. And shiesty.  

Shorty was wrong as two left shoes ... But she had a nice little run. Had she not got caught she may have made the most money this upcoming prom and wedding season. 

Bottom line is she has to be hiding an insecurity... Or trying to shit on another make up artist the gain popularity. Those were great lengths she went but you can't hide things in plain sight and expect them not to be pointed out. 

But for me to go on and on would imply that I gave a fuck. Shorty fucked up, and bad !! But I'm neither judge nor jury. She ain't do nothin but fuck up her rep in Pittsburgh. And I'm sure she made a profit before getting caught up. I don't know anyone who went to her ... But I'd love to hear from you ... Contact info is below ... And I'll be sure to display your testimony to the masses !! 



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No tea. No shade.

No tea, no shade ... BUT !! 
I can't stand for a bitch to sit and talk about a girl being taken care of. Let me be the first to say if my husband comes home today or tomorrow and tells me, 'Go 'head baby. Quit your job. Work on your blog 24/7' I'm tellin everybody to kiss my yellow ass. 

Don't hate on a girl for being well kept. I'm sure she's working hard at keeping that nigga satisfied enough at home without workin. Damn that. 

And you kept bitches listen up !! If your is smart your pinching off whatever money he throw your way and setting up a rainy day fund. Sunshine don't last forever. Take some of that money and start a company or invest it so that when you need it most it's there. 

There's nothing wrong with being a trophy wife. I stand behind you bitches 100% with whatever you do. Just choose your role and play it well. 

If your a working woman, be the best at what you do to take care of your family but don't shit on the next bitch for having it easy. Work towards a goal so you can be living just as comfortably. 

If you make your money off hustlin niggas, hope that your using that money to keep up your body cause when gravity take over, them titties ain't goin be sittin right like they used to.

Use what you got to get what you want. Whether it's Brains or your body, use it til it gets you where you see yourself. 

I'm all about empowerment. I see chicks doin their thing and I salute them. If their product is something I use or can see myself purchasing, I'll definitely stand behind it. If I don't, I may speak on it to my close friends or my husband but I'm not goin bash them publicly. It may not be me, but someone is supporting them. And that's all that matters. 

Let me be great and I promise you'll get yours. Karma is a bad bitter bitch. So if you try to shit on the next person, please be ready for it to come back ten fold. 


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Side Nigga Syndrome

I just want y'all to know how hard this shit was to write without incriminating myself for my past activities !! 

Although it seems like women playin second is almost as normal as breathing now a days, men playing #2 is just as common. As I said before women can't love two men equally, but who says she loves either of you? 

Before I got married, I was a dog. I mean literally. I dealt with plenty niggas n made them all feel like they were number 1. I just wanted to have fun. But it's a fun and games until they find out they're not the only ones. We as women are labeled as emotional creatures but men are just as emotional, they just display them differently. And shit always got real.   

When your upfront with guys and let them know they aren't the only ones they try really hard to be everything your main dude isn't. They want to give you more attention than that guy, they want to spend more than that guy, they want to fake like they're listening to your problems more than that guy... All. To. Get. The. Pussy. 

Now if they get the drawls, 1 of a few things will happen. 

1) They change up completely, treating you like shit for being disloyal to your man 
2) They try to play it cool but be gone and want to be #1. 
3) They become clingy and try to sabotage your home life. 

Umma keep it real though. Women are a lot better at cheating than men. While all of this is going on in her life, her main nigga may NEVER EVER KNOW. Women know how to play all sides of the fence. We're programmed to be phony. It's just in us. (Whether or not a woman is able to suppress it and be real on a day to day is different topic for another blog honey.)

I can testify that guys pay the most attention to chicks when they are loyal to another guy. I swear I never got so many niggas lined up until I was holding a nigga down n jail or when I decided to settle down and get married. It's like your commitment to one guy is a magnet for every other guy. 

I laugh because in my head I'm thinkin, so you want me to dog this nigga, get with you, just so you can dog me. Because y'all know niggas like to throw shit back in your face. I'm not about to hand a nigga the shovel. 

At no time can I afford to throw away my comfort zone for a side nigga. Especially when I don't know where I'll end up or how many other chicks he's spinnin... Side niggas don't know how to act. Niggas get catty just like chicks do. Once you hurt a niggas pride, he's out for blood. Watch how quick you go from being 'beautiful just the way you are' to every average bitch in the book when they spill their feelings to you and you down play them. 

The bottom line is PLAY YOUR PART !! If you sign up as fucking janitor, don't try to end up a fucking principal. 



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The not so secret society of side bitches

Back in my side bitch days, I played my fuckin role. There wasn't no bitchin n cryin about spending time. Just break that bread off when I need it an I'll keep my mouth shut. Those were the rules. 

I knew I was wrong but I was young(ER), childless, and carefree. I knew he wasn't leavin his bitch. He told me he loved me and the saddest part about it was I know he did. 

See men n women love differently. And when you involve a third party, things get messy. Men can love two (or more) women at a time. But here these two women are, loving the same man. 

Women always know when their man is cheating because men are creatures of habit. An once those habits are broken, there's a reason why. They're trying to do things out of the norm to intrigue this other woman. 

Now whether or not the woman at home is goin to speak on it is another issue. 

I've been on both sides of the fence. And I'm a firm believer in Karma so I know that when she came back she would not kick me in the ass, but in the face. And she did. 

It was the worst feeling in the world to know that the man that I loved and lived for loved someone else. In my mind you can't possibly love me and ANYBODY else. 

If you goin have a side bitch, she got to know she's secondary. Once you make that bitch feel special she becomes a threat to your woman at home and then ... Well then is when the trouble begins. Arguments, fights, crazy texts, and prank phone calls. 

At this point the side bitch now feels she pulls rank and deserves the treatment the man is giving to his woman at home, and she'll do whatever it takes to become #1. 

Lawwwwwd don't get me ta preachin up n here !! 

The side bitch is the side bitch for a reason !! 

Let's not forget honey ... A woman loses a man the same Motha fuckin way she got em !! 

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Mind yo MUTHA FUCKIN BUSINESS ... Friends in your relationship

For those who don't know, I'm married. Like every relationship (intimate or not) we have good and bad days. One thing that keeps us focused on us, we don't involve friends, family, or social networks when we're at each others throats. 

Although we're very public, we keep our in house goings on, in the damn house where they belong. 

How often do you see couples on Instagram or Facebook fighting then turn around and are right back where they started, together. They went from 'That niggas a lyin ass dog' to 'I love my baby daddy, I'll never let him go'. As I've said before, I'm very into public image, an that there just doesn't look good from the outside looking in. 

And to friends stand point, MIND YO MUTHA FUCKIN BUSINESS. 

Regardless of what's brought to you, stay in your place n keep the conversation inside the four walls it was brought to you in. It's not your place to tell Jane, Linda, an Tracy a mutha fuckin thing. 

Early last week, me and my hubby were home and he got a call from his homeboy. He said his mans was at a bar on the West side of Pittsburgh and so was I, in some niggas face. My husband laughed n responded, 'Boyyyy my wife in the kitchen... Tell ya mans to take a better look' (oh by the way shout out to whatever fuck boy that was... I'm sure he's never met me but imma let you be great). Even if I wasn't in the house my husband had the security to know better than that. 

At no point is that acceptable for a man to be making calls like that because they are always trigger ready when the tables are turned and they get caught by their girls home girl. So let's just stay in our own lanes. 

And that's always a tough decision. Do you call your friend if you see her man with another bitch? Every scenario is different. It depends on your relationship with that friend. It may come back and bite you on your ass. It may ruin your friendship. Just be careful. 

Pittsburgh is so small an so full of crabs tryin snatch you down, if your not confident in yourself and your mate, anything can tear you two apart. Including friends ...


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Bitches with no edges act like edges don't be everything ...

Don't get me wrong, I'm in no way upset at you ladies for having fucked up hairlines. On some real shit, I pray daily that I don't inherit my dads receding hairline. A baldy doesn't work as well for females. 

What I am upset with is the excuses I've heard. An the attitude girls have when someone starts talkin about hairlines. You can tell a girl got fucked up edges under her weave if you bring up this blog and they get'ta rollin' their eyes, instantly getting an attitude. 

Look, as black women we forever torture our hair. That's a given. But we have to take responsibility for it. I don't want to hear you blaming your mother for relaxing your hair too soon or Ms. Maggie for selling you the glue you shellacked on for those perfect Chinese inspired bangs. 

Going into every hairstyle you gotta think about what your goin do next with your hair. Whether or not you'll have enough hair to grip to braid for that sew in. Or what pattern you goin make those braids to hide bald spots. So choose wisely !! 

More recently I've noticed people are wanting to find less damaging ways to do their hair. They're paying attention to the amount of strain being out on their hair and taking steps to prevent and repair damage already done. Kudos to you !!  

My main point is, you have the opportunity to prevent ridicule. Whether or not you do so is completely on you. 

AND FELLASSSSS !! Your not off the hook. Your in the barber chair every week and wonder why oh why your hairline is FUCKED up. I'm seeing a lot more guys rockin' baldys. I just assumed someone slipped with the clippers n they had to take it all the way down. If goin bald before 30 was your choice, shout out to you I f not, well think twice before you point fingers at any shorty with a disappearing hairline. 


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Rats on rats on rats ... Rumors in the community

I, BlondeGirl Nok, can only give the public information that has been brought to my attention. If you can't stand the heat, GET OUT THE KITCHEN !! 

Pittsburghers TAKE HEED !! 

While y'all worried about the 'China Man' frying up dogs, cats, rats, and raccoons ... You neeeeeeeed to be paying more attention to what (other than chicken and fish) your favorite local bars are frying.

I mean, I can only speak for places I've been employed. I never seen anything outlandish. Maybe a roach here n there. But in all honesty a customer brought them in, in her purse (I can't make this shit up).

This shit here though is unimaginable !!

My husband brought to my attention a video a close friend of his posted on his Facebook page eariler in the week. It was a group of fellas standing around a deep fryer removing a mouse or rat or whatever the fuck. It damn sure wasn't a bird. An YES IT WAS IN PITTSBURGH !!

Now that you have this information under your hats, bet you screamin' WHERE BLONDE GIRL WHEREEEE ?! Ha !! Cause that was my reaction. 

Supposedly It happened at a bar called The Sandy Creek or some shit. I'm guessing only Penn Hills an East Hills natives really know anything about how good their chicken REALLY is. 

Go watch the video on my BlondeGirl Nok Facebook page !! 

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Who you callin' a BITCH ?! ... The controversy of the B Word

Ok so before I begin my rant let me insert my disclaimer here ...

I, BlondeGirlNok, can not begin to give a fuck about if one is offended by this blog post ...

There ... Now that that is out of the way, let me begin:
It's safe to say that I have completely stripped anyone of the satisfaction of calling me a bitch. I use the word more freely than any other noun, adjective, or verb. It's by far my favorite cuss word (after the Big F) !!

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not bout to run up on nobodies granny like, 'Yo bitch, you finish them cookies yet' but I may proceed to tell a story like, 'Granny you know this bitch tried to cut me off in traffic today?' ... BIG DIFFERENCE. How can you get angry at that? If anything you want to hear more about how that bitch tried to cut me off in traffic. Right or wrong??

I'm a part time barmaid and sometimes it slips out to my customers. I just hope they're drunk enough to accept it. For instance, I had a lady order a drink I've never heard of (which doesn't happen often) n my response was, 'Bitch WHET?!' (No that's no typo ... Whet n What mean the same thing, just with a ratchet girl twist). Anyway her girlfriend laughed so I laughed n the woman laughed. An it was all good after that.

I think generally people look at the word as an insult or an intimidation tactic, but if you take the power away before (or when it's used against you) then you have the upper hand. Girls use it amongst friends on a daily basis, well I know me n my bitches do. We have completely changed the meaning. If I call you, 'My Bitch' it's now a term of endearment. I fuck with you HARD BODY (Basically I ain't goin let you get jumped if I see you fightin' in the club).

It's about how you deliver the BIG B. If it has a little aggression behind it, yes, one may take offense. But if you deliver it with an award winning smile to a stranger, it's almost as welcoming as a flirty hug !! Intriguing ... I know !! But it's the world we live in. So adapt !!

Now I can say that calling a man a bitch is still cliché. Some guys get offended and in that case I tell them to pull up their fucking skirts because their feelings are showing. Get the fuck over it. A word is a word. If you find yourself getting upset over someone calling you a bitch, then maybe you are. Don't shoot the messenger ... I'm just saying.

I get into arguments with people and laugh when the BIG B is thrown in the air. I embrace the word. No I'm no female dog, but I can be a bitch. I mean I'm a bitch 99% of the day. My mouth is smart, my attitude is fucked up most of the time, and when I don't get my way I turn small battles into world wars. So 'Yes, I am a bitch, what's your next jab' is generally my reply when I'm called one.


With that being said ... I'll catch you bitches on the flip side !!

See yinz in 1000 views !!

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The evolution of the eyebrow ...

Basic definition according to WikiPedia: The eyebrow is an area of thick, delicate hairs above the eye that follows the shape of the lower margin of the brow ridges of some mammals. Their main function is hypothesized to prevent sweat, water, and other debris from falling down into the eye socket, but they are also important to human communication and facial expression. It is not uncommon for people – women in particular – to modify their eyebrows by means of hair addition, removal, makeup, tattoo, or piercings.

But at some point those modifications have gone awry ... 

THE TRAGEDY !!

Trendy as it may be to sculpt the brow, not too many people have perfected the art ... Yes I said art. Now it's not rare to see women with eyebrows that look like they are filled in with magic marker and the foundation used to define them look like chalk outlines in a crime scene.

Over the past year or so I've noticed people paying more attention to their eyebrows ... Me included. I have it down to a science. If I'm having a good brow day, fuck my hair, fuck what I have on... I'm giving straight FACE all day. Paired with a nice pair of hoops, I can have my head wrap on and I'm serving more attitude than when I'm fresh out the salon chair.

It's almost like an obsession with me. I have inside jokes with friends about some over the over plucked or under tweezed brows I see on my Instagram timeline. It's so bad I even have my husband sending me screen shots captioned 'One of these things is not like the other'.

The Process

I had a friend of mine send me tutorial videos when I was just beginning to perfect my eyebrow journey (Shoutout @VivaGlam88) and it helped tremendously. Even though she's far more advanced than I am with a make up brush, I got the gist of things and modified her procedure to work for the amount of time I allot myself every morning. Because, really, who the fuck has time for that shit with an 18 month old (NOT THE FUCK ME, THAT'S WHO). I'm just trying to make sure they look more like identical twins than fraternal twins before I leave the house.

I hate on bitches with big thick brows who can get them arched to perfection and not have to fill them in. I wasn't blessed with em so I draw (yes draw) them on every single day. Go look at my Instagram (@nok_kane) and no two days will they look the same. But I be gat damned if they don't look good.

Listen to me when I say, it's not as hard as it seems. I promise. It's about finding the correct products to match your skin tone and hair color. I can't really say that yellow folk like myself shouldn't use black for their brows because when I got my make up done by Bo (@makeupbybo) for my husbands birthday party in October I had a smokey eye and dark brows (even though my hair is blonde). It looked good... really good. She's really a beast with her craft. She makes my poor excuse for a brow look like I was blessed by the Gods with Beyonce brows.

The Solution

All I'm saying is please (please please please) take a good look at your eyebrows before you leave the house. Take a step back from the mirror so you can see what I see when you approach me. Make sure they match, your arches don't look like your a spokesman for McDonalds, they aren't too long, they don't touch in the middle, and if you're sculpting them PLEASE BLEND YOUR FOUNDATION !!

Note to men:
YOUR EYEBROWS MATTER TOO!! There's nothing wrong with getting them tamed when you get a hair cut or shape up. No, you don't have to arch them ... But unibrows aren't attractive for either sex. Good grooming is a turn on to women. You'll thank me later.