Thursday, February 27, 2014

Just a simple rant ...

I've been battling some inner demons lately about decisions I've made or didn't make these past few years. I know y'all was like damn bitch what's the hold up ?! Nonetheless ... I'm BACK ... 

What do you do when you've come to the end of your rope ... When your exhausted all your solutions? That's where I've been for the past two months. Trying to figure out my place. 

Stepping out of your comfort zone requires you to make changes. Some of those changes may be letting go of things your really not prepared to but in order to move forward you have to let go of the baggage. You can only hope later that the decision that was made was the right one. 

You have to cut off an infected limb to save the rest of the body, but the say don't cut off your nose to spite your face. I know I'm not the only one out there living in limbo. I just don't live in the shadows. Pittsburgh is a small town and I'm working on becoming a big fish so in turn people pay attention to what I do and how I do it more than they do the average joe. So when I make decisions, before I say things, before I post things, I have to already have in my head what the possible outcomes will be. What backlash may emerge, or if a bitch might wanna beef. 

I'm not the type to say, oh no, I'm not worried about what people think of me, because I do. What someone says about me can tarnish my reputation and fuck up potential business. And I'm all about my business. I'm about my money, who's not? That's no secret. Let's not be dumb, my name makes me money. Why the fuck would I condone anyone throwing dirt on it. 

I'm on a permanent grind for more reasons than one. I have my greatest accomplishment (my daughter) watching my every move, I have a whole list of people preying for my plummet, I have my parents behind me who had one vision for me and because I have strayed away from THAT I have to make THIS work. Nothing's ever guaranteed, but I can promise that this is only the beginning. This is only the platform for greater accomplishments. 

I don't know where it will take me, people ask me all the time what my ultimate goal is. I have yet to really determine that BUT I know the top is looking real good, and I'm going to do whatever, use whatever resources, outlets, or whatever the fuck to get there. I can stress to you guys how much I appreciate the support !! I am looking to expand because Pittsburgh is only the beginning. And when I break from here ain't nobody fuckin with me. 

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Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Insecurities !!

From what I've encountered first hand, tapping into a mans deepest feelings is like sneaking into Fort Knox. They lock their true feelings away and wrap them in barbed wire. For the record fellas... It's annoying as shit. 

Guys seem to know how to divert attention away from them when the heats really on. They love to flip things back into whomever. Their defenses immediately emerge. Trying to get them to answer simple questions is like persuading a 1 year old to effectively use the potty. 

I know a lot of y'all who need a little 'liquid courage' to say what you've always wanted to. A drunken mind speaks the truth, whether they mean to or not. It can be a gift and a curse because, yes, they've gotten something heavy off their chest, but the delivery is all wrong. 

Men shield their insecurities because society has painted a standard for them to follow. Please keep in mind a lot of these standards were put in place ages ago and don't apply today. So when against a woman of this millennium, old fashioned ways only get mocked. Women are now being brought up to be less defendant on men so for a guy to be completely macho cause a clash if personalities. 

If a man (or woman) can not embrace their insecurities and work towards some sort of change, a healthy relationship is next to impossible to obtain. I can guarantee that is in the top 5 reasons people separate, because they can not be completely open and honest. 

Being open and honest does not mean point fingers at your partner, but be able to identify and accept your flaws, Working towards that change ... together ... That goes for any kind of relationship ... Friends, lovers, etc. 

Insecurities can and will manifest into something far worse than what they began. I've had some serious issues with insecurities and they have destroyed great friendship.  I've let my insecurities alter my psyche and done some crazy things to people, hurt a lot of feelings, lashes out at right and wrong people about things not in my control. But I accept responsibility, I don't apologize because I always mean what I say, the delivery may have been harsh, but those were just MY insecurities in living color. 


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Friday, February 14, 2014

The Cupid Struggle


Valentines day brings the best and worst out of people. Either people are really happy about the holiday, or really fucking miserable! Where's the medium? Well I'm here tap dancing in limbo. 

The really happy end of the spectrum is filled to the brim with people flooding their social network feeds with love quotes, gift pics, and 'FlippaGrams'. I love to see people who genuinely are in love, hell even in like with a muh fucker. People who keep their relationships fresh (whether for the public eye or not I'm not here to judge). 

At the opposite end of things are the Bitter Betty's and Bob's who are sitting back despising the thought of love. I ain't mad at y'all either. Clearly something has spoiled your Valentine's Day chocolates and your here to let it be known. (Posting pictures of Cupid getting shot and shit. Damn homie !!) 

Last but not least are my favorite kind of folk, the people who don't care about the holiday enough to post a million tweegrams about how much they don't care about the holiday. The ones who picked up overtime at work to scream, 'My Valentine is Ben Franklin' ... Not workin at McDonalds booboo !! But again, I'm not here to judge you. Be great. 

Finding love is an amazing thing. Loving whole heartedly, living happily, being united with someone who's best asset is you is an amazing thing. When you find it, hold on to it, fight for it. 

I believe in a higher being who gives and takes people and opportunity. Sometimes things (or people) are presented to you as a challenge. It's up to you to make the right decisions. This Valentines day I challenge you to do something different. Make a long lasting memory with someone you care about. 

Happy Valentine's Day from me && Mine !! 


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Monday, February 10, 2014

Urban Myth ...


Before I begin let me provide my disclaimer ... My opinion on this subject is biased because of my past ... BUT I will try my hardest to speak on behalf of all sides. If you know me, you know my story (or the gist of it) so I'll keep it out of this. 

Ladies ... Contrary to popular belief ... A BABY WILL NOT KEEP A NIGGA AROUND !! A baby will not keep your nigga from cheating, from leaving, from creeping, from NOTHING !! And in the same breath, FELLAS, just because you have a baby with a shorty does NOT mean she's yours forever. 

For whatever reason, some women use babies as a manipulative ploy to keep a guy around. If your doing it to nab a nigga from the next bitch, chances are you just made yourself a permanent side piece. You'll do whatever it takes to divert him from his woman and that means you'll accept your place as number two. Check this out though, if you make that bed, LAY IN IT, don't try to climb your way to the top. 

I'll say sometimes it works though. I know guys who keep their baby moms around on the strength of their kids. To me, it looks like it's out of sympathy. He'll do whatever possible to keep all parties happy, main bitch, side bitch, baby mom, new girlfriend ... Etc.

On the other end of the spectrum, their are guys who think because they got a bitch pregnant, that she won't leave him. Like she's a permanent part of the team. Some girls fall in line with every other girl, others stand apart n dare to be different. 

The most important part in all the drama are the kids involved. You can't let them see the craziness. You can't mom or dad bash to them. You have to have THAT much respect. 

Here is a small note to new girl friends coming into a scenario from me to you ... If you get yourself involved with a guy with kids, please let the love you gain for those children be genuine. Do not force it to make your man happy. It only makes things worse, and it's transparent as ever. If you whole heartedly fuck with his kids, good, life's about to be so easy. If not, prepare yourself because shit is gonna be tough. If you have a hard time accepting things then remove yourself because a woman's or man's love for their children may be the only thing they have in common and it'll be used against you ... 

Either way it goes, someone ends up being an on going headache. Whether it's the bitter baby's mom, jealous baby's dad, or the selfish side bitch. So tell me this ... Which one are you? 

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Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Black girl problems ...

(Photo credit my girl Necca - @westsidestory412 on Instagram) 
Ask me if I'm mixed ... ONE. MORE. TIME... I swear, when I come outside, at least ONE person asks if I'm mixed. The answer is no. Nothing against people who are, I'm just not. One thing about black folk is we come in an array of colors ... From midnight black to high yellow, and that can be in one family. 

I often joke that I'm dark skin on the inside. I'm not the stereotypical, hair flippin, high horse riding light skin chick (unless I have to be). 

Now don't get me wrong... When I'm out with my girls or my man and I'm super dolled up and my face beat to the GAWDS, then yes, I find my seat high up in the nose bleeds. The look on my face is a plastered smirk, but when I'm chillin' though, on a day to day, or behind the bar, I'm super approachable.

In a lot of women of color, there's an underlying hate for one another. I know light skin women who wouldn't  give a brown skin chick water in a sand storm (and vice versa).

If you walk into a room full of women your judged before you even make it to your seat. That shit kills me. I know this because I catch myself doing it sometimes. I never speak on no shit until I've done my investigating though. And that's only if it's worth it. If I know I'm goin to see this person again. If not, it's in the wind. 

I'm all for empowerment. I can't stress this enough. 

We as women have so much to offer but because we are preprogrammed to be a certain way things don't get accomplished as they should. I love to see a woman who's on her shit without bragging. A woman who can humble herself without being asked. Good is never over looked. 

Try to spend less time pointing out the bad in the person next to you and more time fixing the wrong within. Self confidence shines brighter than any jewelry you can cover yourself in. Self confidence speaks for you. Once you rid yourself of whatever hate you have inside, it shows on the outside. 

I'm still working on myself. I don't want to sound self righteous and like my shits together, 'cause it ain't. But I promised myself that I would make the changes necessary so my daughter has something worth looking up to. Something she sees everyday so she doesn't have to seek it anywhere but home. 

It's our responsibility ladies. We are the ones raising the next generation of black women ...




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Monday, February 3, 2014

Cheaters Annonymous

In a world full of stereotypes, a cheating woman is becoming less cliche. We know what we want (and more importantly), we know what we DONT want and we are capable of having our cake and it eat it too. 

For some of us, we have to be taken to a breaking point to step outside of our relationships. For others, it's a routine, but it's a routine that is seldom picked up by our significant others. Either way it's not likely they are caught, unless they want to be. 

Im not here as an advocate for cheating. I'm here to provide awareness because a lot of guys think that women can't play the game they play. That's old news. You have ladies out there (like myself) who were schooled by some of the illest niggas out here. Any bullshit I choose to tolerate is just that, bull shit I CHOOSE to tolerate. 

Guys are so persistent sometimes. It's really cute. But a woman knows when she sees a man whether it not she's 100% capable of investing not only her mind, but her body. Most women are getting better at keeping it real with guys from jump, then they're labeled a 'HOE' ... But why? Again ... It's 2014. We do the choosing. 

I went a long time expecting to be cheated on, so that was always my excuse. That was how I made it ok in my head to do it. Cheat before you get cheated on. Until I met someone who made me feel secure enough to not need a hunnit niggas in my phone for 'back up' or 'just in case'. 

I did a lot of dirt and I've NEVER gotten caught red handed... Until I wanted too. And by that time it was too late. I had his name tattooed on my ring finger and didn't give a fuck. Who would dare check me? 

I mean honestly, if you have a woman who sweats the small shit, appreciate her. When she stops is when you better worry, because one of two things is goin on. Either she's building a case against you like a star prosecutor or she's got another nigga who's made his shoulder a place to cry on (figuratively or literally). 

A woman can be at dinner with her man and be fucking the waiter and old dumb ass across would never know, why? Because we wouldn't dare bat a single eyelash. If a guy was in the same situation, he'd get'ta stuttering and stammering or explaining before the appetizers hit the table. It's in men to be dogs but it's not in them to be house trained. They're messy. 

Women are sensual seductive creatures. We can have every person in the room hypnotized by us if we tap into it. We can make each and every one of our niggas feel special without them think twice about being just another player on the bench. 

It's all a mind thing for men. We let you think your in control but we have THE POWER OF THE V!! Fuck drug money, 'Good pussy. It'll buy you what you want!' 


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