Wednesday, April 23, 2014

A slice of humble pie ...

I don't know if every city is like Pittsburgh, PA ... But here, you find the same group of people supporting each other. And anyone outside that group, it be like fuck them. I mean honestly I do my best to show love but I'm not obligated to attend or support any one person or group. 

I base the way I do things completely off the vibes (for lack of a better word) I get from people when I meet them. Although I seem to be shallow or even sudity I promise you I'm not. I can be. But on a day to day I'm so regular. And if for some reason I treat someone bad it's because my first impression of them made me feel like they don't deserved my support. If I met you and you act shitty, guess what bitch!!  I'm not attending your event, I'm not reposting your flyer, I'm not mentioning it on the radio, NOTHING. I'm super petty. And I stand behind everything I do and say. Right or wrong. 

People kill me, I mean really fucking slay me to pieces. I sit back and watch all the dick eating that goes on on Instagram. If I think a bitch is pretty, I'm goin put heart eyes under her pic and show love. I'm goin give credit when it's due. If I don't think her (or his I don't discriminate) pic is cute, guess the fuck what ?! I'm not liking it lol I mean Seriously. And when I see her in the streets Im still goin speak. Simple as that. We don't have to be besties. No I don't have her number. No we ain't doin lunch. But I keep communication lines open n bull shit free in case I need her connections. 

I mean I guess what I'm saying is broaden your circle for professional purposes. I may not have the answers about this or that but because I try to make myself approachable I may know someone who can give you the answers you seek.

On NoChill radio last week we talked to two groups of party promoters. At the end of the show we all sat back and talked business. We came to the conclusion that it makes more sense to all come together to do things rather than dividing the city and fucking up any more money. Everything is about who you know. I never sat down with any of those people before. But I did then and I learned something from each of them. Sometimes it's ok to shut the fuck up and let information soak in. 

I get tired of hearing people complain about how people in Pittsburgh only show support to some people n not others. If you feel like what the fuck your doing isn't getting the attention it deserves then you have to put more effort into getting your shit sold to the masses. Nobody but you is going to give a fuck about your craft like you do. Don't complain about what someone else is doing !! Prefect your craft and marketing. Brand yourself !!

There is always going to be a copy cat out there so if that's the problem you have to think at least 5 steps ahead of the game!! If I see two people on Instagram selling the same product at the same price, I'm going to buy it from the person who when I seen out was cordial, smiled and was welcoming. Same for an event taking place. If when I had the chance to meet you in person and the vibes that came from you weren't humbled I'm not wasting my time or my fucking money. 

If your in the business your in to make money, be your brand 100% of the time. Some days I'm in a shitty mood but if someone stops me to talk about my craft, guess what? That shit is put on pause and I turn that shit to sugar and will hold conversations with complete strangers. If you expect to move higher on the ladder to success humble yourself and take what you do serious ... or nobody else will ... 

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Sunday, April 20, 2014

Lost && Found ...



As I embark on a new journey... A new chapter ... No a new book ... I look back at all the times I was broken and was left to pick up the pieces of my life. I spent the last 3 years on an emotional roller coaster that had no emergency brakes, shit no brakes at all, but I'm choosing now to bring this bitch to a screeching halt ... I've gone around so many times, that I've begun to be accustomed to the fucking bullshit. Living fast n daily a piece of me is left behind. 

Everytime I thought I reached a moment of clarity before, I was wrong. I had just switch the kind of jaded glasses. No situation was ever better than the other, it was just deteriorated me differently. They were trials that I had to experience so I can teach my daughter to maneuver differently. I'm grateful to have a corner of peace. I don't have the whole thing. I'm working on it though. 

In each bad decision I make (not made because I'm still actively making bad choices), I lose a piece of my sanity, I give away more of my power that I am so proud of. I have literally let someone else change me .... Mold ME !! ... Imagine that ... Someone having control of me ... I've been subconsciously manipulated into thinking what I've gone through is ok ... But in THIS moment ... THIS time I see things again differently ... Maybe not necessarily right ... But definitely different. 

So now here I am ... Walking around packing ... Reminiscing ... Packing ... Laughing ... Packing ... Crying ... Packing ... An I stop to think ... that this move is about to be phenomenal for me ... I almost let the opportunity pass me by ... Why? Because I was JADED ... I was made to believe that what was here ... In this small city ... Could surpass the possibilities that wait for me anywhere else ... An I do mean ANYWHERE BUT HERE. 

So I'm moving now ... And en route I'm finding small particles on the floor in the house my mother and father raised me in ... And they look familiar ... I touch them and they feel like I've touched them before ... I'm staring at them in awe of what I see ... And I realize that they are pieces of the old me ... Broken pieces that I left behind each time I let a nigga break me ... And I'm piecing them together and seeing the girl my mother and father raised ... Pieces of me that I assumed were lost !! 

This move I'm making is going to break the vicious cycle I have been in the last few years ... This is a move in the right direction. I'm busting out of my comfort zone in order to continue to build for my family in the future ... They say never regret anything ... But I regret everything but the birth of my daughter and my blog ... 

This is the end ... And the beginning ... 


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