Side Nigga Syndrome

I just want y'all to know how hard this shit was to write without incriminating myself for my past activities !! 

Although it seems like women playin second is almost as normal as breathing now a days, men playing #2 is just as common. As I said before women can't love two men equally, but who says she loves either of you? 

Before I got married, I was a dog. I mean literally. I dealt with plenty niggas n made them all feel like they were number 1. I just wanted to have fun. But it's a fun and games until they find out they're not the only ones. We as women are labeled as emotional creatures but men are just as emotional, they just display them differently. And shit always got real.   

When your upfront with guys and let them know they aren't the only ones they try really hard to be everything your main dude isn't. They want to give you more attention than that guy, they want to spend more than that guy, they want to fake like they're listening to your problems more than that guy... All. To. Get. The. Pussy. 

Now if they get the drawls, 1 of a few things will happen. 

1) They change up completely, treating you like shit for being disloyal to your man 
2) They try to play it cool but be gone and want to be #1. 
3) They become clingy and try to sabotage your home life. 

Umma keep it real though. Women are a lot better at cheating than men. While all of this is going on in her life, her main nigga may NEVER EVER KNOW. Women know how to play all sides of the fence. We're programmed to be phony. It's just in us. (Whether or not a woman is able to suppress it and be real on a day to day is different topic for another blog honey.)

I can testify that guys pay the most attention to chicks when they are loyal to another guy. I swear I never got so many niggas lined up until I was holding a nigga down n jail or when I decided to settle down and get married. It's like your commitment to one guy is a magnet for every other guy. 

I laugh because in my head I'm thinkin, so you want me to dog this nigga, get with you, just so you can dog me. Because y'all know niggas like to throw shit back in your face. I'm not about to hand a nigga the shovel. 

At no time can I afford to throw away my comfort zone for a side nigga. Especially when I don't know where I'll end up or how many other chicks he's spinnin... Side niggas don't know how to act. Niggas get catty just like chicks do. Once you hurt a niggas pride, he's out for blood. Watch how quick you go from being 'beautiful just the way you are' to every average bitch in the book when they spill their feelings to you and you down play them. 

The bottom line is PLAY YOUR PART !! If you sign up as fucking janitor, don't try to end up a fucking principal. 



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